My marriage counseling class started at the end of January, and one of the first books I had to read was Ronald Hawkins’ Strengthening Marital Intimacy. I wasn’t really looking forward to it, but found this book to be a pleasant surprise. I imagine that I may have more to say about this book later, but here are a few thoughts in my usual format.
Hawkins theorizes that good marriages are built on intimacy or “oneness with healthy separateness.” The foundation of this healthy marriage is commitment or “an unconditional acceptance of the other partner.” Hawkins defines seven areas of commitment that each spouse needs to attend to if the spouse wishes to have a healthy marriage. Hawkins spend the majority of the book fleshing these areas of commitment out.
I noticed . . .
I noticed that Hawkins takes a dim view of the current church preoccupation of submission. I liked him better for that.
I also noticed that, ultimately, a good marriage comes down to having good companionship, and desiring each other’s company.
I wondered . . .
I wondered if marriage is truly as simple as Hawkins maintains. I also wondered how to apply his principles to my own marriage.
It reminded me of . . .
I was reminded of all the marriage seminars and books I’ve attended and read that only discuss a woman’s role in marriage as being submissive. They’re such junk that I don’t want to even mentions them because of the tremendous burden that these books place on a relationship.